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    Neph out of action again… and for a bit longer this time.

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    • goosehdG
      goosehd
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      @neph93 Good stuff!!! 🙂

      "I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing, we will do what is best for us and our customers" - Giles P. :)

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      • popvultureP
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        Hell yeah brother!

        WTB
        IHSH-IHG-BLK XXL
        Sugar Cane Coke Stripe SS L charcoal

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        • MattM
          Matt
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          Now he just needs to get his ass down to Hamburg. Shenanigans heal all wounds.

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          • Y
            yannis
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            This is Awesome Reuben..Gread stuff man.

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            • W
              Weft 4 Dead
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              Looking good Reuben. All the best to you and your lads.

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              • neph93N
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                A little update…

                I’ve been absent from the forum after getting quite ill again late summer. This sparked a diagnostic investigstion as it was becoming obvious that my major depressive disorder was a symptomatic of an underlying, more serious disorder.

                I’ve now been diagnosed as having emotionally unstable personality disorder (previously known as Borderline Personality Disorder). There are also indications of ADHD (innattentive type), but that is hard to diagnose if you already have BPD.

                Long story short, I will have had BPD since adolescence so a late diagnosis (while better than no diagnosis), means a lot of crap to wade through.

                But fuck it. Onwards and upwards. Having a serious personality disorder is a great excuse for bad behaviour, right?

                «Stevie Heighway on the wing!
                We had dreams, and songs to sing…»

                • Dame Vera Lynn
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                • GilesG
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                  @neph93 said in Neph out of action again… and for a bit longer this time.:

                  Having a serious personality disorder is a great excuse for bad behaviour, right?

                  I must have it too.....

                  Thanks for the update Reuben....

                  "OK face up to it - you're useless but generally pretty honest and straightforward . . . it's a rare combination of qualities that I have come to admire in you" - Geo 2011

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                  • MattM
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                    I’m borderline lots of things. Halfassery is my way.

                    Love you buddy. Miss you lots.

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                    • SKTS
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                      @neph93 The “knowing” is a huge positive I’m hoping. Miss you here and will be sending all the positive energy your way.

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                      • ARNCA
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                        @neph93 said in Neph out of action again… and for a bit longer this time.:

                        Onwards and upwards.

                        This is definitely the way - hope the ride’s less bumpy from here on!

                        “Every day that you survive you get a free sunset“

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                        • endoE
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                          love you @neph93

                          si tacuisses

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                          • neph93N
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                            @Matt your making an organ enlarged and causing it to throb innsistently.

                            @SKT interesting point. For me, yes. It explains a lot, and long term it will be good to accept that. At the same time it is pretty hard to swallow right now… a key feature of the diagnosis is emotional dysregulation, so finding out has me seriously emotionally dysregulated 😂

                            By all accounts, «knowing» is not of that much help when it comes to recovering from or living with disorders, from a therapeutic perspective. Whatever ails one up top, its about learning triggers and avoiding them. I’m the same me I always have been, with or without a three initial diagnosis. Just have to learn how best to live without triggering anxiety, depression or disocciation.

                            @Giles 😘😘🥰

                            «Stevie Heighway on the wing!
                            We had dreams, and songs to sing…»

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                              Thanks for update, Reuben. We miss you around here, and I love seeing you when you pop in for a visit. I hope that with this diagnosis you can continue to find new ways to cope and live healthy and ideally happy!! 🌈❤️

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                              • markus_berlin_M
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                                Hey..

                                I wish you all the best. I hope that you are soon back on the legs, as far as one can be with a depression.
                                I had only a light one, but that was enough.
                                I wish you much strength for the coming time!!!!

                                IG: markus_berlin_

                                WTB :
                                IHSW-50 size M
                                IHV-44 size M

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                                • OaktaviaO
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                                  @neph93 thanks for the update, brother dude. I can't imagine how the diagnosis feels with BPD but I certainly can relate to ADHD. I was diagnosed when I was 10 or so. Hope you continue to figure things out to the point where (selfishly) you can make more stops by the forum. We really miss you man but know it is from love and we are patient!

                                  IG: electricindigowizard

                                  "Possibly splitting hairs, but I consider @Oaktavia to be the beardy, dank High Magus of this denim game…" @neph93

                                  WTB: IHJ-32 - XL/XXL

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                                  • popvultureP
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                                    Matt tends to inspire throbbing in organs, it's true. Just look at him.

                                    Been wondering how you're doing, @neph93 — glad to hear you've got a diagnosis, as knowledge is power. We're all rooting for you and are happier whenever you're around. Much love, buddy ❤️

                                    WTB
                                    IHSH-IHG-BLK XXL
                                    Sugar Cane Coke Stripe SS L charcoal

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                                    • goosehdG
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                                      New you, old you, same you...doesn't matter as we all love you! Ups, downs, and the in-betweens we'll be here 🙂

                                      "I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing, we will do what is best for us and our customers" - Giles P. :)

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                                      • WhiskeySandwichW
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                                        @neph93 Hey man, good vibes coming atcha. Its funny, I don't think we've ever chatted on here, but I've seen so much of you while scouring these forums for intel, that I feel like I've learned a bit about you (without creepystalking), and I think you're an alright guy. I want you to know that I'm genuinely rooting for you, and even as a stranger, you've been a great help and a positive influence to me. Be easy, my friend.

                                        "The greatest obstacle to living is expectancy, which hangs upon tomorrow and loses today...The whole future lies in uncertainty: Live immediately."
                                        -Seneca

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                                        • KarolK
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                                          @neph93 Only opportunities Reuben. Stay strong!

                                          Favorite:
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                                          • flannel slutF
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                                            @neph93 your transparency is truly admirable. Extended absences or not, you will always be the daddy of this forum. #man crush

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