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    Iron Heart Fall/Winter 2025 Live Reveal - Thursday 12th of June at 1700BST

    Neph out of action again… and for a bit longer this time.

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    • W
      Weft 4 Dead
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      Welcome back, Rueben. Happy to hear you’re doing better. Sorry that Hot Ingrid won’t be co-starring in your adventures, but I’m sure that’ll be remedied by rocking those vests as only you do.

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      • RoxRocks86R
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        Lots of love to you Rueben 💙💙💙

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        • chrisjohnnickC
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          Glad you're back! 😘

          Wants List:
          IHSH-20-Red, XL
          IHSH-208-Indigo Kersey, L-XL
          IHSH-254-Grey Kersey, L-XL
          IHSW-45 Black, M
          IH-526SV 21oz type III, 38 or 40
          IH-777S-SB size 32
          IH-777S-142 size 31 or 32

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          • GilesG
            Giles
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            I spoke to Reuben today, he was out with the boys fishing. Atta boy....

            He sounded good. Has had some rough times over the last couple of months, but sounded genuinely in a pretty good place.

            I was happy....

            "OK face up to it - you're useless but generally pretty honest and straightforward . . . it's a rare combination of qualities that I have come to admire in you" - Geo 2011

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            • neph93N
              neph93
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              “Some of those that work forces
              Are the same that burn crosses”

              • Virginia Woolf
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              • goosehdG
                goosehd
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                @neph93 Good stuff!!! 🙂

                "I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing, we will do what is best for us and our customers" - Giles P. :)

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                • popvultureP
                  popvulture
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                  Hell yeah brother!

                  WTB
                  IHSH-IHG-BLK XXL
                  Sugar Cane Coke Stripe SS L charcoal

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                  • MattM
                    Matt
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                    Now he just needs to get his ass down to Hamburg. Shenanigans heal all wounds.

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                    • Y
                      yannis
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                      This is Awesome Reuben..Gread stuff man.

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                      • W
                        Weft 4 Dead
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                        Looking good Reuben. All the best to you and your lads.

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                        • neph93N
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                          A little update…

                          I’ve been absent from the forum after getting quite ill again late summer. This sparked a diagnostic investigstion as it was becoming obvious that my major depressive disorder was a symptomatic of an underlying, more serious disorder.

                          I’ve now been diagnosed as having emotionally unstable personality disorder (previously known as Borderline Personality Disorder). There are also indications of ADHD (innattentive type), but that is hard to diagnose if you already have BPD.

                          Long story short, I will have had BPD since adolescence so a late diagnosis (while better than no diagnosis), means a lot of crap to wade through.

                          But fuck it. Onwards and upwards. Having a serious personality disorder is a great excuse for bad behaviour, right?

                          “Some of those that work forces
                          Are the same that burn crosses”

                          • Virginia Woolf
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                          • GilesG
                            Giles
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                            @neph93 said in Neph out of action again… and for a bit longer this time.:

                            Having a serious personality disorder is a great excuse for bad behaviour, right?

                            I must have it too.....

                            Thanks for the update Reuben....

                            "OK face up to it - you're useless but generally pretty honest and straightforward . . . it's a rare combination of qualities that I have come to admire in you" - Geo 2011

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                            • MattM
                              Matt
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                              I’m borderline lots of things. Halfassery is my way.

                              Love you buddy. Miss you lots.

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                              • SKTS
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                                @neph93 The “knowing” is a huge positive I’m hoping. Miss you here and will be sending all the positive energy your way.

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                                • ARNCA
                                  ARNC
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                                  @neph93 said in Neph out of action again… and for a bit longer this time.:

                                  Onwards and upwards.

                                  This is definitely the way - hope the ride’s less bumpy from here on!

                                  “Every day that you survive you get a free sunset“

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                                  • endoE
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                                    love you @neph93

                                    si tacuisses

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                                    • neph93N
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                                      @Matt your making an organ enlarged and causing it to throb innsistently.

                                      @SKT interesting point. For me, yes. It explains a lot, and long term it will be good to accept that. At the same time it is pretty hard to swallow right now… a key feature of the diagnosis is emotional dysregulation, so finding out has me seriously emotionally dysregulated 😂

                                      By all accounts, «knowing» is not of that much help when it comes to recovering from or living with disorders, from a therapeutic perspective. Whatever ails one up top, its about learning triggers and avoiding them. I’m the same me I always have been, with or without a three initial diagnosis. Just have to learn how best to live without triggering anxiety, depression or disocciation.

                                      @Giles 😘😘🥰

                                      “Some of those that work forces
                                      Are the same that burn crosses”

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                                        Thanks for update, Reuben. We miss you around here, and I love seeing you when you pop in for a visit. I hope that with this diagnosis you can continue to find new ways to cope and live healthy and ideally happy!! 🌈❤️

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                                        • markus_berlin_M
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                                          Hey..

                                          I wish you all the best. I hope that you are soon back on the legs, as far as one can be with a depression.
                                          I had only a light one, but that was enough.
                                          I wish you much strength for the coming time!!!!

                                          IG: markus_berlin_

                                          WTB : IHV-44 size M
                                          IHSI-16

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                                          • OaktaviaO
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                                            @neph93 thanks for the update, brother dude. I can't imagine how the diagnosis feels with BPD but I certainly can relate to ADHD. I was diagnosed when I was 10 or so. Hope you continue to figure things out to the point where (selfishly) you can make more stops by the forum. We really miss you man but know it is from love and we are patient!

                                            IG: electricindigowizard

                                            "Possibly splitting hairs, but I consider @Oaktavia to be the beardy, dank High Magus of this denim game…" @neph93

                                            WTB: IHJ-72- XL/XXL

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