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    • MattM
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      @AdamC they drink 🍹

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      • goosehdG
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        @AdamC No lie about other kids crying. Used to piss me off to no end on a plane to hear a kid cry for hours on end. After having two of them and realizing that there is nothing that can be done, I’m just a little more tolerant.

        "I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing, we will do what is best for us and our customers" - Giles P. :)

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        • goosehdG
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          @mclaincausey so clean your room or I’m going to beat your ass isn’t appropriate? Just joking, although I have had that internal conversation with myself a few times…

          "I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing, we will do what is best for us and our customers" - Giles P. :)

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          • MattM
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            Every day.

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            • deancleanD
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              Great topic here. My kid just turned 19 months old yesterday. The only advice I can give is try not to wait until you are 46 to have a kid! 😀 my wife and I weren’t on the same page about having a kid and it took a few years until we were both ready to dive in. Im glad we waited because it takes both of us at 100% to make it work. It also takes my parents helping and my sister and her husband, and anyone else who wants to throw their hat in the ring!

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              • goosehdG
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                @deanclean Being an older parent is great and I always tell people that at 20 I didn’t have the patience, 30 I didn’t have the time, and 40 I didn’t have the energy.

                But to tell you the truth, I’ve had my fun, made mistakes and learned from them, and now am able to enjoy kids and life in ways I never could have when I was younger.

                "I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing, we will do what is best for us and our customers" - Giles P. :)

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                • Paul9221P
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                  @mclaincausey said in Parenting:

                  Also be specific with praise, how you like how they did something, versus “good boy/good girl”

                  I really like this point!

                  If you say "good boy/girl" when they do something right, they might think that they're a bad person when they don't do something well. Praising the behavior instead of the person disassociates praise from their worth as a person, which hopefully keeps them from becoming people pleasers.

                  Blanket-line all the things!!!

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                  • ?
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                    @Paul9221 also, what i’ll do is when they do something that was better not doing i’ll ask why they did it. Cause maybe in there eyes it wasn’t necessarily a bad thing. You give them a chance to explain. Also i can explain my point of view. Also the question: did you understand that? Is a good one. Cause when they’ll do it again you can recall on the agreement you had made before.

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                    • mclaincauseyM
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                      I would encourage all parents to give this one a listen: https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/happier-parents-happier-kids-pt-1-your-child-isnt-a-vip-or-a-fragile-vase

                      https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/happier-parents-happier-kids-pt-2-letting-children-try-and-fail

                      Really takes down a lot of the helicopter and lawnmower parenting styles that have emerged over the past several decades.

                      Think it, be it.

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                      • SKTS
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                        @mclaincausey We love her podcast and I will for sure check those out. A book we like was “The Gift of Failure” by Jessica Lahey. Totally along those same lines I’m guessing.

                        https://www.jessicalahey.com/the-gift-of-failure-2

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                        • SKTS
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                          And is this the place I come to find out what to do when the kids get their own Spotify account and fill playlists with awful Minecraft inspired techno pop? Like as a dad do I have to endure this? Also imagine dragons and AJR. Nope

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                          • MattM
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                            If Imagine Dragons were lost at sea I’d sleep better

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                            • SKTS
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                              That’s the truth

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                              • GraemeEG
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                                Is it just me or does this crowd tend to skew more girl-dad?
                                3 under the age of ten here......

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                                • MattM
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                                  Could be part of the apocalypse. Global warming, neo-Fascism, girls.

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                                  • GraemeEG
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                                    I figured it was because we had the common thread of being gluttons for financial punishment

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                                    • mclaincauseyM
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                                      That’s interesting. Gotta say, I absolutely love being a girl daddy. I’m sure I’ll be much more patient with her than I would a little mini-me 😂

                                      Think it, be it.

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                                      • GraemeEG
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                                        @mclaincausey same.
                                        I would much prefer not to have a mini me.

                                        I think the term at the time for me as a wee one was a combination of "active" and "busy"

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                                          @EdH they're crafty little buggers

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                                          • BrianB
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                                            I’ve figured out boy or girl they all cost a fortune
                                            Ours is only in what I call primary school, depending on the time they turn 5 here depends on whether or not they have to sit it out in childcare for another 6 months or can actually go to school unless you go to a private school when the do a mid year let’s make money intake
                                            Jacob was in that group and way way past childcare kindergarten so we enrolled him
                                            One of the best things we did even if it has stretched our expenses somewhat

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