Random Rants
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@goosehd said in Random Rants:
I was... empathetic towards people. They saw it as a sign of weakness where I see it as a sign of strength especially today when I wish more people cared about each other.
This!
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@goosehd said in Random Rants:
Feck it all, she's only 7.
Time for her first knife, I'd say! Something small but very, very sharp...
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Phone call meeting with the teacher has ended and our concerns are noted. She agrees with our assessment and that the biggest issue is with the words that were used "I wish you were dead". The mother of the child in question doesn't see anything wrong and thinks that things are being blown out of proportion...
His actions have been documented and at this point he hasn't been suspended, which from the sounds of it won't do anything because his mother is dismissive of his actions.
We may escalate this to the principal level to discuss further...
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As a teacher, I work with 10 year olds. I’ve been working in elementary schools with grades 3-5 for 15 years now. Nothing makes me angrier than seeing kids target other kids. I’ve seen and heard all sorts of acts of bullying including horrible name calling, hitting, guns brought to school, and this year had a student brandish a blade and threaten another of my students.
Sometimes I reflect back on the sorts of things we used to say and do to each other when we were kids this age. I recall having a bully continually threaten me in 4th grade until it turned into a fight. My father was big on martial arts and boxing, so I was able to defend myself and that particular incident ended there. As I grew older I had to defend myself many times through high school. I’m very grateful to my dad for teaching me those skills, even though I hate fighting.
In schools, kids are coming from all sorts of backgrounds. As teachers we teach our students about bullying and empathy. As important as these skills are, they can take many years for kids to learn, and a lifetime for others. We practice restorative justice and allow the kids the opportunity to talk after these incidents and try and understand how their actions impact others. As has been noted in previous posts, many kids are coming from backgrounds where they are not cared for or given the basic emotional supports necessity to develop empathy. This is the hardest part of working with kids. First hand interaction with the children of societies dark side.
As a teacher, I try and use these hard life lessons as an opportunity to teach empathy but also how to stand up for oneself. It’s so rare that a kid doesn’t experience some sort of conflict. A certain amount is healthy and is an opportunity to learn from.
Dennis your daughter is fortunate to have a loving home and a protective dad that will teach her how to handle these challenges and to defend herself If necessary. Placing hands on another kid is never ok. But we know it happens. I think your approach to teaching self defense is a sound one. Also, learning from these opportunities as a way to understand the needs of less fortunate kids. Because sadly, this is the world we live in. -
@goosehd looks like you got to the root of the problem. If mom doesn’t think the language and behaviour was unacceptable, then it makes you wonder about the home environment.
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@goosehd it sucks man.. for sure this can’t be allowed.. as father of 2 girls i can only imagine how my reaction would be. Also thanks for sharing some of your history about they were bullying you, shows some power imo. In the end a parent would do everything to protect it’s child and it seems like the mother is ‘protecting’ by saying things are taken out of proportion wich is clearly not the case. I would def take it to a higher principal. Of it’s not only for your kiddo then maybe for a next one. Everyone has another look on ‘normal’ but violent behavior or excessive use of cruel language isn’t normal. I hope things will work out in the end! Have a good weekend for you and your family.
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@Matt said in Random Rants:
As I see it, that’s the ONLY way to deal with a bully. I could be wrong.
Over to our overseas bullying correspondent…
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I wonder if airlines and airports have weekly meetings on how to make travel more difficult and frustrating. Every time I do everything right, the electronics in the bags are packed correctly, liquids in the right containers and bags, we still end up getting wrong.
Congratulations to those in charge making something fairly simple and what used to be fun, a semi what miserable experience.
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…and a special thanks to the staff whose job is to check if your bag fits into the metal rack torture device to see if your bag will fit in the overhead bin.
My wife and I have identical bags and he was positive my bag wouldn’t fit. After I showed him mine would, he did the same thing for my wife’s bag. Meanwhile I think I saw someone pushing a chesterfield (sofa/couch) past us…
