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    goosehd
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    A boy in my youngest daughters class grabbed my daughter by the throat and said "I wish you were dead" during recess yesterday. I'm trying very hard not to go into full dad protectionist mode.

    Teachers and the principal are involved and trying to sort everything out. I am awaiting their responses....

    "I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing, we will do what is best for us and our customers" - Giles P. :)

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      goosehd
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      ...she's fine and tough as nails. We also had a very long talk about using force to get out of bad situations when needed.

      "I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing, we will do what is best for us and our customers" - Giles P. :)

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        goosehd
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        Feck it all, she's only 7.

        "I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing, we will do what is best for us and our customers" - Giles P. :)

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          tody
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          @goosehd I feel for you. Had the talk with my older kid many times, he's 11 now and gets targeted by bullies often. Kids are cruel. No, fuck that - humans are.

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            EdH
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            My little girl is only 3.5 months old, but I can feel your rage @goosehd. Going full dad-rage, hulk-smash mode (Edit: at the teachers) used to get my dad results when I was a kid and got bullied at school.

            Take the dive...

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              EdH
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              P.S. 7 is a good age to start brazilian jiu-jitsu. My little one will be going once she's old enough.

              Take the dive...

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                jerkules
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                @goosehd that sucks, I hope the school deal with it appropriately and that it stops immediately.

                My daughter was the target of some pretty insidious bullying by a girl in her class last year when she was 7. The girl in question clearly enjoyed being in charge of her clique. She’d tell lies about my daughter and manipulate the group to exclude her. We could tell my daughter was getting pretty miserable about school, but since it was a slow build kinda bullying, I don’t think my daughter recognised it for what it was. In any case, the school dealt with it incredibly well.

                We had to really hammer home to my daughter that no one who is happy with themselves acts the way this girl did. People that are happy spread joy, people that are miserable spread misery. She totally got it and can now see this type of bullying for what it is, and I hope it’ll be less likely to effect her if she experiences it again.

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                  jerkules
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                  I don’t know how I’d react if it was a more physical form of bullying though. Dad-rage seems about right I think.

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                    Twistlock
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                    Glad your daughter is doing ok Dennis @goosehd, can feel your rage. Self defense training is a good thing, we have our son doing it (again) right now. Gives him confidence and us more peace of mind.

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                      goosehd
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                      Thank all of you for the support! Self defence classes are definitely being discussed for both of the girls with the mindset of being able to get out of dangerous situations and when to use that skillset.

                      Agree about humans and the bullying kids face today. It is scary with the way they use technology to torment their peers and it's no longer just at the school yard. No longer is the home the safe place it used to be and my thoughts are to keep both of the kids away from social platforms for as long as possible. That's a bridge I still have to cross.

                      I truly feel this kid acting out is due to issues at home. Normal kids would do the "I don't like you, you're not my friend, nobody likes you..." not "I wish you were dead". That alarms me more than anything else.

                      Her friends stood up for her and when he saw one of them running for the teacher, he immediately stopped because he didn't want to get in trouble. There is some hope there and I hope that it brings his parents into some difficult conversations.

                      I was a victim of bullying in school because I was always smaller than the other boys and empathetic towards people. They saw it as a sign of weakness where I see it as a sign of strength especially today when I wish more people cared about each other. In some ways I think the bullying I saw in school made me a stronger person today.

                      Such a difficult concept to work around and I feel for all of you dealing with kids and this topic. It's not ok and it never should be.

                      "I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing, we will do what is best for us and our customers" - Giles P. :)

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                        Jett129
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                        @goosehd My son started Taekwondo at 7,eventually achieving the rank of 3rd degree black belt. Still think it was one of the best things we ever did for him.

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                          Twistlock
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                          @goosehd said in Random Rants:

                          I was... empathetic towards people. They saw it as a sign of weakness where I see it as a sign of strength especially today when I wish more people cared about each other.

                          This!

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                            Matt
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                            Fuck. That.

                            (NOT AT ALL SFW)

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                              goosehd
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                              @Matt "If you ever bully or hurt anybody again I'll come back and butt fuck your father with your mom's headless corpse on this goddamn lawn..."

                              Well that certainly will leave a memory or two... 🙂

                              "I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing, we will do what is best for us and our customers" - Giles P. :)

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                                Matt
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                                As I see it, that’s the ONLY way to deal with a bully. I could be wrong.

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                                  goosehd
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                                  I may watch that movie this weekend...

                                  "I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing, we will do what is best for us and our customers" - Giles P. :)

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                                    Seul
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                                    @goosehd said in Random Rants:

                                    Feck it all, she's only 7.

                                    Time for her first knife, I'd say! Something small but very, very sharp...

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                                      Matt
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                                      @goosehd It’s from the second season of True Detective. If you haven’t seen the first season I’d skip the second and watch the first. The second wasn’t as good. Except for that scene.

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                                        goosehd
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                                        Phone call meeting with the teacher has ended and our concerns are noted. She agrees with our assessment and that the biggest issue is with the words that were used "I wish you were dead". The mother of the child in question doesn't see anything wrong and thinks that things are being blown out of proportion...

                                        His actions have been documented and at this point he hasn't been suspended, which from the sounds of it won't do anything because his mother is dismissive of his actions.

                                        We may escalate this to the principal level to discuss further...

                                        "I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing, we will do what is best for us and our customers" - Giles P. :)

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                                          Twistlock
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                                          FFS, "doesn't see anything wrong"...

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