Parenting
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^Exactly why I started this board! Good points both.
Maybe the emphasis should have been on the teaching of the new skill, rather than the chore. I wasn't thinking everyday housework so much as re-painting the fence or having them help out with some other DIY that needs doing. I know when I was a kid I'd have viewed that as a punishment, but now I'm a homeowner there's all sorts of stupid shit around the house that I wish I knew how to do!
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If you just need some time alone, tell your kids that you're in time out and you'll be back in 10 minutes.
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Even the best we’ll laid plans will fall apart at a moments notice with no chance for a predictable outcome.
Every action has an equal or opposite reaction.
There are good, great, and pretty shitty days at being a parent. Take a breath before you lose your temper, walk outside, and reevaluate the circumstances. Most of the time they don’t know what they’ve done and it’s our job to teach them.
"I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing, we will do what is best for us and our customers" - Giles P. :)
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Good stuff guys. I like @chrisjohnnick ’s timeout strategy. I usually go in time out when I can sense I’m about to lose my shit. If I need to escape I hide in the bathroom with my phone.
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@EdH Thanks for this thread and already some great stuff here. I’ll put my thinking cap on if I can find it and make an effort to contribute. I can almost remember some good advice. For now I’ll paraphrase Mike Tyson…”everyone has a plan until they get hit in the mouth.” That’s pretty much been my parenting experience.
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Mrs H read somewhere that they go through a ‘developmental leap’ at around 4 months of age, which involves their circadian rhythm resetting…
My evening has involved endlessly rocking the baby to renditions of ‘The Last Shanty’, which is a surprisingly effective lullaby (shame the sleeping afterwards only lasts for 2 minutes at a time).
But in my head was Sam L Jackson:
Ooop, she’s up again. 🥱
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Probably the best advice I can come up with is to be yourself, carry yourself with dignity and a respect for others, and don’t be an arse (all of the time).
Kids learn a lot by watching and want to emulate the ones that they love. Be that person and don’t be afraid to say I am wrong .
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@goosehd Doesn’t get better than this in the parenting advice department. One thing I’ll add is that being a parent is almost as much about you relearning who you are and what you stand for as it is about “raising” the child. The self reflection gets intense…at least it has for me. But like Denis said, the modeling is where it’s at. Which is hilarious because by design they can bring out the worst in you.
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The Sleep Easy Solution is what we used. Think she’ll need a little more time, 4 mos is too early for the intense stuff where they cry it out for a couple nights. It was tough but totally worth it. The book should have different strategies for different ages.
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there is no way. hold tight and hang on.
Patience before all else. you're the fucking adult. and humility. there's nothing like a faceful of baby piss to show your place in the order of things -
our lad is 6 now, and i still pinch myself each day as to where those 6 years have gone
we were thrown into the parenting lark with no prior training or knowledge ( we were booked in for new parents training 5 weeks before he was due to pop out of mums tummy but he decided at 6 weeks to go he was ready) a month in the hospital then home still needing to be fed through a tube and only weighing 2kg was a bit tough to startlost count of the number of renditions of puff the magic dragon i have sung over the years to help him sleep
