Random Rants
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I love all the support here!! The fact of the matter is my fiancé is a great gal. The reality of the present predicament is she’s losing her mind over the myriad details the last 7 weeks leading up to the wedding. She’s back to baseline now, but understand this is about to be a wild ride to the finish line. Any others experience this leading up to their wedding?
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@Mizmazzle i’m engaged so not married yet but we’re settling down on some stuff and in the end i came to the vision that’s HER day. My opinion? Doesn’t mather.. so that’s why you have to enjoy the time BEFORE getting married. No just kidding. Always when you come to the point that you just wanna throw yourself of a bridge remember this question: why did you proposed her? Then al those happy and warm feelings will come back and you’ll tell her: sure baby we’ll fix this. And then the next wave will come in and then you need to ask yourself the same question. Every love story had a beginning. You fell in love, you still love her. You wanna be with her the rest of your days, right? If that’s not what you want.. just say no and RUN!
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I’ve been together with my wife for 30 years (married for 25), and still love her as much as or more than the early days of our relationship.
I’ve never doubted us or the relationship. I’ll admit that sometimes you have to put some effort into it, but if you’re not, then you’re not doing it right.
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@Heavy_blue 1,000,000% what I want. Love her to bits. She loves me the same. There’s zero doubt in any of that. Just curious if anyone else has some humorous accounts of their own Bridezillas? Sometimes hearing others stories helps to laugh off the irrational absurdity of our better halves behaviors!
Also, I fear my macabre sense of humor may have painted my scenario more dire than it is. Maybe I should stick to denim talk on the forum haha. Y’all just have great stories. Thought it could be fun to share.
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@Mizmazzle no bro! I love your ‘weeks till the wedding’ stories! And i think this is the right place! Can’t wait to see some pictures! Any honeymoon plans?
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@Heavy_blue yeah man! We’re getting married in Italy. Which is a big part of the frustration. The cross cultural planning and communication can be brutal. Then we travel Italy for a few weeks post wedding. I’ve been toying with starting a Mizmazzle’s Italian Wedding thread. Highlight IH presence throughout the whole wedding and travels!!
In the easy chair with my boots on, melted whiskey in my hand. Could'na been asleep for more than three hours...time to go to work again...
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@Mizmazzle love the idea man! You should definitely do that! And Italy.. the place to be.. good food and wine and coffee
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No advice (I think I’m immune to love). In my worst moments I tend to think of marriage as the original pandemic! In my better moments I have huge respect for people who can make it work and recognise they have something special (but not something I want) - really hope that’s how it works out for you. The Italian adventure thread sounds great!
“Every day that you survive you get a free sunset“
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@Mizmazzle said in Random Rants:
I’ve been toying with starting a Mizmazzle’s Italian Wedding thread.
Gotta do this. ^
I’ve got tons of thoughts on this whole subject but would need a brain more organized than mine to work them into coherence. We eloped is about all I can remember. Seemed to work, we celebrated 20 years in 2022.
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I know she was losing it on the regular leading up to the wedding but she always has something she’s losing it over so this was just the drama du jour. I mostly tune it out so I don’t have any funny anecdotes. Except the time she emailed my sister in law about not wanting my step mom at the bridal shower because of what an awful bitch she is and they were devising an elaborate story to shut her out. Unfortunately they neglected to take her off the email thread. In the end that did the trick just fine.
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@jordanscollected Jeff!! This is the best marriage psychology ever!! Hell, I may pick a few fights myself come FW23!! Saw a real nice brown UHF at the Berkeley Supply party!! I’ll def let her know Jeff said so!!
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@Matt hahahahaha
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Man, lots of good stuff in this last little bit — I appreciate the perspectives. I'm neither engaged nor married, nor do I have kids (@Mizmazzle I 100% feel you on loving kids but not really wanting your own. I just don't know how I could handle em). Just wanted to add to the general sentiment that relationships are a ton of work, but they're worth it for the right person. I feel like the one I'm currently in is the first time I've truly been with someone who gets me and is kind, understanding, considerate, all of those things... that said, there are big bumps at times and in this case I'm sure it's worth the effort to talk them through and persevere. All I know is that all of my other relationships, some of which were more "fun" at times, all were littered with red flags and ended in balls of flame.
WTB
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@popvulture you’ve put this very eloquently my friend. Had my fair share of crazy ones. Always fun for a bit. Then the fear of god sets in and you have to sell your house and get new phone numbers then spend the next 12 months peeking through your blinds when random cars drive by. It’s all about a good balance.
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@Mizmazzle sounds like a movie script.. well the story I heard today is a good one as well. A female co-worker of me has a relationship for like 2 years now. Her new boyfriend has a ex who worked at his company and she grabbed €150.000 before she wen’t out just stole it.. the co-worker and her man wanted to buy a new house and then found out his ex just stole 150k and they are not able to buy the house.. ex girlfriends..
