Wabbidashery… aka, The Heritage Heaven Tour
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Weather got so shit I had to give up and go home. Luckily I live two minutes from the stadium, so a change of clothes and an IH blanket later I watched Bodø/Glimt go 3-0 up from the comfort of the sofa with a beer..
The wabby chore even got in on the action…
«Stevie Heighway on the wing!
We had dreams, and songs to sing…»- Dame Vera Lynn
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@neph93 Mate! Big respect to you for your openness, transparency and good humour. You write so well. Glad you enjoyed the game both home and..home-home haha.. funny you had to chase Tromsø beer with Nordlands hahah.. Wonderful to see Bodø in the sun and your Nintendo plans are awesome. Lying on a sofa in ones underpants playing Mario Kart is The Way. Wabash! Take care, bro!
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Monday was more or less washout due to about the fourth night of acute insomnia… but today Ingrid is coming back from a trip with the boys, so I’m baking bread and making focaccia and pizza. Anyone in the baking thread will know the drill…
The braided bread needs some work, poolish based dough may not be the best for it. This was a first time effort though, and practice makes perfect.
Pizza and focaccia to come…
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I feel like I could/should talk about mental health some more…
So this will be the first of hopefully a few blog style posts, where I will babble a bit. Just sharing some history, observations and stories. Comments and questions are welcome. You can also ignore it if you wish.
My first diagnosed depression was about 13 years ago, but the subsequent treatment made me realise I’d suffered multiple serious episodes from when I was a child. I just didn’t know what they were.
Since that first diagnosis I’ve had four different courses of therapy and four different medical treatments. I’ve had numerous different diagnoses, different versions of depressive disorder, adjustment disorder, generalised anxiety disorder etc.
Every time I’ve been ill it has been different. The symptoms vary massively. They don’t tell you that at the start, mostly because a bout of depression is not unusual in a life and in the vast majority of cases it goes away. But if, like me, you are prone to it (likely due to a combination of trauma, genes and generational/inherited trauma), it comes back in different forms and with different symptoms.
It is very confusing because you generally don’t realise you are getting ill before you are well into self-medicating, employing coping strategies unconsciously, and making very poor decisions for yourself. All of which will ultimately make things worse, and normally result in a crisis which reveals how ill you are.
Fun!
«Stevie Heighway on the wing!
We had dreams, and songs to sing…»- Dame Vera Lynn
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@neph93 I appreciate your honesty and willingness to discuss this. Thank you!
In your therapies and treatments, what are some of the ways you've been taught to deal and handle symptoms? At what point do you ask for help?
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@goosehd just like with baking and everything else, practice makes perfect
At first I didn’t ask for help. You get help when everything stops working. That first time 13 years ago, I lay on a couch for five days and barely ate or slept, and ignored all calls or knocks at my door. It wasn’t until work sent people round that I got help. I literally didn’t think to call in sick. Over the last few years having people who know you around helps. They can tip you off. You also learn to spot symptoms. But this last period of illness started over two years ago and I sort of didn’t know that until I was being sectioned by my GP. So go figure.
As for healthy coping strategies you need to remember the basics: Sleep. Eat. Exercise. That is not as easy as it sounds. Identify negative behaviours and either eliminate or manage them. There is an excellent theory called salutogenesis developed by a guy called Aronofsky, that looks at the science of well-being. So focusing on what makes you healthy, not sick.
Hopefully I’ll go into detail and exemplify some of the above over the next few weeks.
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@neph93 thank you very much for your honesty and transparency. Ever since i scrolled down the first page on the forum on my first day your name was a frequent thing. We’re all human and we have the same addiction in the form of IH. But also, this feels like a family. So thanks for sharing and i wish you all of the best my man!
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@neph93 I heard the term Inherited Trauma for the first time recently, listening to a podcast with Dr Gabor Maté. He was explaining the idea of predispositions to addiction/substance abuse being more related to generational, inherited trauma than to the physiological phenomenon of an 'addictive personality.'
This is supposedly a fringe theory in the field of psychology.. I'm not intelligent or well read enough to either critique or advocate for the theory, but it was a fascinating listen nonetheless.
“𝑁𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟 𝑙𝑒𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑓𝑢𝑡𝑢𝑟𝑒 𝑑𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑢𝑟𝑏 𝑦𝑜𝑢. 𝑌𝑜𝑢 𝑤𝑖𝑙𝑙 𝑚𝑒𝑒𝑡 𝑖𝑡, 𝑖𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢 ℎ𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑡𝑜, 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑠𝑎𝑚𝑒 𝑤𝑒𝑎𝑝𝑜𝑛𝑠 𝑜𝑓 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑜𝑛 𝑤ℎ𝑖𝑐ℎ 𝑡𝑜𝑑𝑎𝑦 𝑎𝑟𝑚 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑔𝑎𝑖𝑛𝑠𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑒𝑛𝑡.”
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@neph93 thanks for sharing. I’ve not been around here as long as some, but I’ve always liked the way this place handles the big stuff as well as all the other stuff. We’re all uniquely messed up but there are enough points of connection between us for me to think your thoughts and experiences will prove helpful, either directly or indirectly in helping all of us be a bit more understanding.
Also I always feel that the world is a better place when you’ve been baking – hope it has a similar effect on you
“Every day that you survive you get a free sunset“
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@ARNC well said mate.
Baking is certainly a benign and therapeutic activity for me. As is listening to screamy-shouty music. Today I’ve done both at the same time. They work very well together!
While we’re on the subject, the pizza and focaccia were goooood
«Stevie Heighway on the wing!
We had dreams, and songs to sing…»- Dame Vera Lynn
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Wow Reuben
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Thank you for sharing all of this with us, Reuben. It’s very brave to so open on a forum such as this.
I’m so glad that we are beginning to get over the stigma associated with talking about our mental health openly. Life it too short to hide from each other.
Much love! And the wabash looks great on you.
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Love the jacket--just got the 19oz lefty this tread is making me want this chore coat as well. Mental health is often an overlooked issue and is treated as less than serious by society. We would tell a diabetic to "get over it" but often those that suffer from mental issues are told such nonsense. I appreciate your story very much @neph93 . Respect brother.
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