Random Rants
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from what i've read about the point of "I heard from other parents that they didn't like A, B or C and therefore i'm against whatever." is the biggest problem.
those so called parenting groups and expert parents are the biggest toxicity around. i share the same sentiment with parents whatsapp group chats for my son primary 1 class.
just because other parents doesn't like it for whatever reason doesn't mean it's wrong or not suitable for your own kid. just go with you feel is right because you know them better than anyone else. the fact with these kinda "parenting groups" is that they all feel like some sort of cult where if you don't follow their advice then you're deemed to be raising your child wrong.
go with what you feel is right and ask him what he wants and how he feels about the classes. let them make their own decisions and if they don't like it or feel it's too much for them, then it's their responsibility to tell you how they feel. this not only teaches them to make their own decisions but also follow through with the responsibilities they receive from making their own choices.
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That's pretty much how I feel regarding my ex-wife's responses. It wouldn't be so bad if there was at least compromise on some things but it usually gets to the point where all communication breaks down between us. In the case of summer school, my ex acts like there's a stigma attached to it. I have the opposite opinion in that I think being in a new learning environment will help my son. Not only will he be exposed to new teachers but he'll make new friends and have fun for a month.
With karate school i'm just going to talk to my son and ask what he wants. If he feels uncomfortable with the current instructor then i'll stop taking him. I found another karate school that has an actual dojo and they provide uniforms, so I think that's the direction we may go in.
The part of co-parenting that's difficult when divorced is keeping some semblance of civility between each other. There are times when we'll argue over something but it doesn't happen often. My ex asked me the other day if I wanted to co-host my son's bday party with her and I politely declined and told her that it's best that we keep bday celebrations separate. We simply do not get along and if we're in each other's presence it's usually just awkward silence. My son will occasionally ask me if I can do things with him and his mom and I have to explain to him that I can't in the most neutral way. I make it a point not to bad mouth her because that isn't very productive and doesn't do my son any good.
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When we were looking for a Martial Arts school for my son we chose Taekwondo over Karate,because we felt it was a better workout for him,due to the fact that there were kicks,which require balance/core strength involved. I was once told that the main difference between the two is that someone who has studied Taekwando would be just as happy to kick you as punch you,where as someone who’s studied Karate would just punch you. Maybe someone who knows more about this than me can explain.
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I'm looking at a Taekwondo school as well. I honestly don't know the differences between karate/taekwondo in terms of fighting styles. I just want something that will provide structure and discipline for my son all while having fun at the same time.
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I enjoyed hapkido, a Korean martial art that blends hard and soft styles. Pressure point strikes, punches, kicks, joint locks, holds, throws, how to land from falls, and a lot of physical fitness and sparring.
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@gaseousclay for the record, my uncle is a 7th dan shihan in goju karate and i've never been taught even though i'm very close with him. apparently it was because i was always quick to retaliate and angry as a kid. so it's not necessarily the instructor but the personality of the person as well.
i totally understand what you're going through. it's the same with my ex and my son. but we're slowly trying to communicate now that he's started primary school, which i feel are the important years leading up to high school.
it is still hard discussing how he's going through school and how we or she would deal with things and such. i still find it hard bringing up certain topics on how we're going to nurture him as he's growing up. she's quite strong headed as well so it's not easy changing or discussing what i feel differently about certain topics. all i can say is to just keep trying. slowly but surely there's going to be a little communication.
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@gaseousclay sounds like the problem isn’t really about the martial art…
However, for such things let me suggest wrestling. My son has been doing it for the past 8 years. It’s been great for him. Built up self confidence, work ethic, delayed gratification, fitness, and the defense aspect of it while further down the list certainly applies. -
@gaseousclay sounds like the problem isn’t really about the martial art…
However, for such things let me suggest wrestling. My son has been doing it for the past 8 years. It’s been great for him. Built up self confidence, work ethic, delayed gratification, fitness, and the defense aspect of it while further down the list certainly applies.Thanks for the suggestion but we're gonna stick with karate for the time being as my son seemed to like it. I'm also going to register him for the youth soccer league this summer so that he gets exercise and learns about teamwork.
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@gaseousclay I practiced Wng Chun and Wing Tsun when I was younger and want to go back to it. Our son turns 5 in May, and I'm going to take him along to some taster sessions. He's super excited about it. My wife is on board with it. Wing Chun was created by a Chinese Nun, so it's pretty non gender specific.
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The corona virus is really pissing me off. Same with the hysteria in the media. I don’t recall people responding this way when the SARS or MERS virus were around.
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the Sanders hysteria is getting old, time to fly off the handle about THE NEXT PLAGUE for 5 minutes.
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The corona virus is really pissing me off. Same with the hysteria in the media. I don’t recall people responding this way when the SARS or MERS virus were around.
Saw someone posted…I got over the Corona virus in the 90s when people started putting limes in their beer.
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I don’t recall people responding this way when the SARS or MERS virus were around.
It is pretty tiring. However this is a very different situation to SARS and MERS. They never made it out of their respective areas of origination while this has just gone global. Far more people have already died from COVID-n19 than those two put together. Neither SARS, nor MERS caused a global economic slowdown. It will be a part of life (and the news cycle) for the entire planet for a long time to come.
