Random Rants
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Let’s call that one #18’s revenge. Or 31.. either or
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I loathe buying IH from online retailers other than IH direct. I only do when it’s a matter of locating my size. IH manages to get packages 1/2 way around the world in 2-3 days. A certain shop in CA can’t get them out the door in 3. I told them I’m leaving town at the end of the week. I don’t want the jacket sitting on the porch waiting to be pirated. Ifyou can’t get it here by then I will just wait to order it Monday says I. We’ll get it there says they. Not….even....close.
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I loathe buying IH from online retailers other than IH direct. I only do when it’s a matter of locating my size. IH manages to get packages 1/2 way around the world in 2-3 days. A certain shop in CA can’t get them out the door in 3. I told them I’m leaving town at the end of the week. I don’t want the jacket sitting on the porch waiting to be pirated. Ifyou can’t get it here by then I will just wait to order it Monday says I. We’ll get it there says they. Not….even....close.
I’m the opposite. Given how fast new releases sell out on the IHUK site I simply can’t be bothered to try ordering something, so I wait till whichever vendor gets what I want and then buy.
I get it though. I had a less than stellar buying experience from an online retailer that sells IH and won’t be buying from them again. I’ve had good experiences with SE and R&H though. Ymmv
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I loathe buying IH from online retailers other than IH direct. I only do when it’s a matter of locating my size. IH manages to get packages 1/2 way around the world in 2-3 days. A certain shop in CA can’t get them out the door in 3. I told them I’m leaving town at the end of the week. I don’t want the jacket sitting on the porch waiting to be pirated. Ifyou can’t get it here by then I will just wait to order it Monday says I. We’ll get it there says they. Not….even....close.
I feel the same way. I also had a poor experience with a shop located in CA when buying IH gear (and will never buy from the again). I wonder if it's the same place…
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I loathe buying IH from online retailers other than IH direct. I only do when it’s a matter of locating my size. IH manages to get packages 1/2 way around the world in 2-3 days. A certain shop in CA can’t get them out the door in 3. I told them I’m leaving town at the end of the week. I don’t want the jacket sitting on the porch waiting to be pirated. Ifyou can’t get it here by then I will just wait to order it Monday says I. We’ll get it there says they. Not….even....close.
I’m the opposite. Given how fast new releases sell out on the IHUK site I simply can’t be bothered to try ordering something, so I wait till whichever vendor gets what I want and then buy.
I get it though. I had a less than stellar buying experience from an online retailer that sells IH and won’t be buying from them again. I’ve had good experiences with SE and R&H though. Ymmv
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I’ve ordered from SE Portland. They are very nice. The dudes at the NY shop are snotty AF.
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Weird weather today in Charlotte. Around noon a storm came through hitting the back of my house with sustained winds of 41 MPH, the windows looked like a waterfall and lasted about 30 minutes. It was a horizontal rain, I looked at the house across the street, the rain was hitting the roof and went up and over instead of down. The airport shut down for 3 hours, evacuating the control tower due to tornado warnings, which did hit in the area, but not the airport. I've dealt with heavy rain before, but I don't think anything like this.
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…sounds like you borrowed some from Wales or Cornwall
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Kinda long winded, and don’t know that I’m necessarily looking for advice but just need to vent…
My wife and I had our first child two weeks ago. It was not an easy road to get there, we’ve been trying for years and had two miscarriages. The second of which came heartbreakingly at ten weeks. But our baby is here, happy and healthy.
So we decided like many to do some professionally shot newborn photos. We’re very happy, baby is so adorable, and they will be nice mementos as she gets bigger. So we did. The photograph posted several of the photos to her business Facebook page, so my wife shared one of those to her personal page and tagged me. Nice comments all around.
Until her mom, my mother in law called last night. Not to say how cute baby looked, how happy she was for us, or anything nice/positive, but to tell my wife she (MiL) doesn’t understand why we got baby photos, why we wanted them, the headshot from the hospital is fine (not sure if that is something they used to do, but we definitely did not get a headshot from the hospital), and to tell wife that she thinks we’re trying to “upstage” her younger brother and his wife and baby.
By all accounts, her brother and sister in law have been very happy for and supportive of us through the whole thing, particularly the SiL. They had a non professional photographer friend do newborn photos with their baby, so I’m sure they weren’t as “good” as a professional would do, but that was their choice. Oh, and their baby is currently 6 years old and in first grade!
While I would have said something to the effect of “it’s good she’s not your baby then” and hung up on her, my wife seemed to handle this all with grace, but WTF? MiL wants to come meet baby and keeps guilt tripping my wife that we’ve been saying no so far, but she’s just going to get in the way and be more of a stress and a pain in the ass than a help.
Visit is set for the end of March. Not looking forward to it. If she starts in with any of this sh!t or how we’re not doing it right or not doing it how she would do it to my wife, her daughter who is already stressed enough and worried about everything with the two previous miscarriages, I’m going to be pissed... thinking a polite reminder once, a sarcastic word second, and then inviting her to leave our house if she doesn’t get the hint.
I knew having a child would bring out the crazy in people, and that we’d get all sorts of unsolicited advice and opinions, but did not expect it from a direct family member.
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lol, welcome to the world of family politics x10.
Everyone will tell you their expert opinion on how to raise your own kids…
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Oh dear @neversummer… no fun, very frustrating, but as @organisys points out, pretty standard stuff.
In my experience there is only one way forward if you are going to avoid major drama and upsets: Your wife handles her family while you keep quiet, smile and wave. Then you support your wife in private. Listen to it all and let her take it out on you, and ask her what you need to do to help her.
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The best thing any couple can do is to accept that both families are nuts, just in different ways, and it's the two of you against all of them.
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Well, of course. Obviously. Goes without saying.
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@neversummer im so bud and I feel your pain. When my first child was born my parents were the guilty party who wouldn’t respect any of our wishes. My suggestion is to tell her exactly what you and your wife expect. and that if she can’t abide and adhere then she will lose the Privilege Of sewing your child. And congratulations brother
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I think it's safe to assume that all of us parents have experienced what you've experienced to some degree. You just have to roll with the punches and expect that grandparents at times will have their own expectations, right or wrong. At the end of the day it's your child and you get to decide what is right for your family. In the name of keeping the peace I would probably err on the side of caution and not ruffle any feathers. After all, these are your in-laws that you'll have to deal with for life, as well as potential babysitters that will help you out of a jam when you need it.
I was lucky in that my ex-wife's side of the family didn't push their own baggage onto us. The only resistence we experienced was when we had to name our child. I learned that it wasn't helpful to tell anyone what you decided on. It was always something like, "why would you choose that name?" or similar response. It all worked out in the end but you kinda learn this type of etiquette as you go along.
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The best thing any couple can do is to accept that both families are nuts, just in different ways…
Your wife handles her family…. Then you support your wife in private. Listen to it all and let her take it out on you, and ask her what you need to do to help her...
… and hopefully vice versa.
Congratulations to your family @neversummer
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When I hear a scenario like this it always reminds me of one of my favorite songs by Billy Currington, People are crazy.
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Thanks all for reading, and for your kind words and advice. Glad to know I am not alone in this experience, and of course I want grandmom to be in baby’s life. My wife is also seeing a therapist for postpartum anxiety. I am not sure if she’s told her mom that or not. Maybe that would help bring down the levels of criticism.
I will do my best to support her and our child. It is going to be a fun journey!
