Random Rants
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Tomorrow should have been my son Archie’s fifth birthday, but he died before he hit three after battling cancer for best part of a year.
Kids shouldn’t suffer, they certainly shouldn’t get cancer.
Parents shouldn’t outlive their kids…or watch the horrors of cancer treatment ravage both the disease and the poor child.
Everything was great until Archie fell ill. Everything’s pretty fucked now.
Just before he died I gave my motorbike to a mate of mine and asked him to hold on to it. I needed it out of reach as we knew Arch had relapsed and his chances of survival were minimal. Hope was gone and in a desperate attempt to give me options my brain kept offering suicide as an alternative. I can’t begin to put into words how bad things got, but in the middle of what we refer to as ‘the nightmare’ Alex delivered our second child Oscar and he has been the reason to stick with it, make the right decisions and try our best to be the parents he so deserves.
I got my motorbike back last week. My friend not only kept it safe, but he pretty much stripped it down and rebuilt it. He didn’t tell me he was doing that and refuses to accept anything I offer as payment.
It looks incredible and rides absolutely perfectly, which certainly can’t be said for me. Just to be back wobbling around on it again is huge progress.We know a lot of parents who are going through or have been through this journey and we all experience the same thing. Friends disappear just when you need them. I understand how hard and horrifying opening the door to situations like ours can be, but I encourage everyone just to check in on people you think might be struggling. Do not think you are intruding, that you are not important or close enough or that you are reminding someone of something that is painful. Pick up the phone, write a message, deliver some food, just be brave.
It means everything to feel that you/we are not alone.x x x
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^ I cant even begin to imagine the pain & suffering you guys have been through whilst Archie was alive and then trying to make sense of his death. The timing of Oscars arrival in your lives gave you guys purpose in that period you called the "nightmare" and, to me, his arrival was a miracle in itself. Managing to survive the trauma of the events you have touched on and then offer us, your fellow forum members, such words of positivity and simple suggestion to think of others and reach out to others leaves me feeling emotional and moved by your strength. Thanks for sharing @Streetwise Hercules
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Thank you @Streetwise Hercules I’m always deeply humbled when someone chooses this arena to reveal deeply personal stories like this.
I think all parents have anxiety issues about the health of their children but I cannot imagine the raw horror of being in that situation for real. Surviving as you and your wife have done is a true feat of bravery. Oscar is blessed. I wish all three of you the absolute best.
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I don’t have any to do anything else but be a pizza man
English much?
Ok. What I meant to say was I don’t have anytime to do anything but be a pizza man.
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@den1mhead @neph93 Thanks fellas. Taking the family to a dinosaur park and then I’m going to medicate myself with some delicious alcohol.
@Seul You hang in there to, pal.
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I'm glad you have that one good friend @Streetwise Hercules .
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@Streetwise:
Parents shouldn’t outlive their kids…
there was a short video i watched about parents opening up about losing a child (whether it was due to suicide, illness or something else) with an interviewer asking questions about what they went through and how they dealt with everything. it was tough enough watching it behind a screen, let alone trying to imagine what they have gone through. i honestly cannot imagine how hard it must've been.
i just want to say that even though we're on a forum, my inbox is always open for anyone to have a chat about anything, and to you @Streetwise Hercules, if you ever need anything, don't be afraid to ask or talk about it. Stay strong.
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Been a topic of conversation lately.
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We have had a shit load of rain recently. I hate water-related problems because water can track for bloody miles, thus the symptom may be a long way from the cause. I spent a long time looking for water ingress today, but found none.
However, all the lights in the new build go back to one RCD, which flips after about 5 minutes of being reset. So I'm working and cooking with the aid of one light plugged into a 13amp socket.
It's a challenge…..
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@goosehd Same here. I saw my first frozen precip this afternoon. My first Midwest winter is underway. Heeeeere we go.
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@FairlyVague At least we don’t have it as bad as @neph93 where winter last’s 11 months and 3 weeks… give or take a week...:D
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@FairlyVague At least we don’t have it as bad as @neph93 where winter last’s 11 months and 3 weeks… give or take a week...:D
Yeah but it’s a dry heat… [emoji1]
Seriously though, the mid-western winters are damn cold even by my standards. Inland climates are evil.
What makes it tough up here isn’t so much the temperature but the latitude, the wind and the constant low pressure/high pressure exchanges.
