Wabbidashery… aka, The Heritage Heaven Tour
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@neph93 well spoken! It’s beautiful how you take us with you inside your thoughts.. and in the way how you dare to speak about it in such a public place as this. I can’t speak for others but in my thoughts we’ve all been in a place where we never wanna be but only starting to acknowledge that when you’re already drowing in wet sand. The beautiful thing about such things is that you can learn from it. You deserve the best version of you. Also of-topic but those 828’s looks great on you! Wear it all in good health brother!
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@neph93 Do you have a support network or weekly/monthly meetings with a group to discuss progress?
Are there things that you are doing that is helping with the entire process such as exercise in moderation, walks, communal activities, or just shutting the door for an afternoon to take a self imposed break?
I think the hardest thing in the process would be the self realization of things that I would be doing right vs. too much of vs. bad behaviours that would set my progress back.
"I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing, we will do what is best for us and our customers" - Giles P. :)
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Great read and thanks for sharing Reuben. I feel like i would have an issue with overthinking about staying moderate in all of the above mentioned. Alcohol seems like an easier one to just "know" you are overdoing it and lie to yourself that you aren't. But coffee (everyday starts with cold brew), food, and social interaction/contact seem like they would be harder to pinpoint when enough is enough.
But what you just described makes a lot of sense to your previous post about how it can take months or years to realize you've fallen into a depression. It could start with subtle changes and then move into a lifestyle that is hard to see as "off" from an outsider, but can actually a lot of coping mechanisms disguised as normal daily behaviors.
you are a 10X smarter human than I, so i really like to learn from you in all aspects, even this one that isn't so pleasant.
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@neph93 this post is very moving, and also insightful and inspirational if that is OK to say..? For me, a beautiful fact about our current times is the acceptance [for the most part] to be honest about our struggles in life. I hope that the next generation [and my kids] can be open, accepting and understanding of the challenges that many face, and how being open and honest is a strength and important. Your post is very very cool. Bravo!
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@neph93 ...and as I've said a million times before, and I do seriously mean it: At any time, you can tell me to fuck off and my feelings won't be hurt. Honestly I would completely understand and appreciate you telling me so.
Here for the long run and to drink a pint or two with you again
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I've been working my ass off, lately. But, I have been following along...
@denim-dawg , awesome opening leg. You have certainly established a new high standard. I loved every minute of your work.
@neph93 , I'm always rooting for you, mate. Looking forward to a time we can hit a pub, and enjoy a brew and a game of footy.
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@goosehd note to self. When you mentally sign off from the forum for the evening and take a tab of Zoplicone, don’t fire off one more quick answer. You’ll think your making perfect sense whereas in reality parts of you are already asleep and the rest is about 30 seconds behind
«Stevie Heighway on the wing!
We had dreams, and songs to sing…»- Dame Vera Lynn
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As I’m sure you understood, despite my best efforts, I was trying to say my 822’s are a little small at the moment and the crotch is failing.
I picked up the 828’s somewhat begrudgingly (14oz is just not my jam), and they are pretty bloody awesome.
Wore my 822’s today though, on my mental health walk…
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proud of you for sharing mate.
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@goosehd support groups are tricky. I have a much better network than I had six months ago. They include, folks I was in hospital with. We have a WApp group and are always there. Some of us meet up now and again, when we have the energy or need to. It’s good to chat with folks that have a common frame of reference. You have to be careful though as folks can start projecting.
Folks with poor mental health are interesting when it comes to empathy. If your issues are connected with trauma, the chances are you have an increased empathetic ability. Put two of those together and it can turn into a whirlpool of despair if both are having a bad day. So one of you should always be charged up.
At the same time more neurodivergent types can be impossible for depressives to be with for any length of time, even though they are great fun to be around for the depressed mind. I could mention hot bi-polar 28 year old hair dressers here, but I won’t. I could also mention my marriage
I also won’t say too much about this because it regards my point of view and because we have a resident expert on the subject in @endo
Otherwise I have some good friends who know stuff and care. They normally don’t “get it” but that is fine. They give you a break when you’re flaky af and understand when you can’t manage stuff other folks wouldn’t think twice about. Beyond that I have a fantastic GP/primary health advisor. I’ve known her for 12 years and she goes above and beyond for me.
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@neph93 To me, it sounds like you have a pretty good group of people to help you on your journey and it makes me happy to see you making progress. It also makes me happy to see that Norway has the health care and support system that it does.
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@goosehd there’s this place too. Like anything, it is a great help when used wisely.
@jordanscollected thanks especially for your post last night. It is good to feel understood, and you obviously grasped the challenges based on what I wrote. I appreciate it.
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I’ve been thinking about tune of the day… Slipknot are one of these bands I’ve often listened to but don’t know a lot about, or have bothered to research. I’m listening to them a lot more these days, because shouty angry music makes me happy. Go figure.
Assuming Corey Taylor is also the lyricist he pretty much captures the conflicting inner dialogue of the depressed mind in these two tracks:
That is to say selfpity meets inwardly directed rage
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