Random Love (anti-rants)
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@Graham just watched that a few days ago. I wish they had done more Songs though.
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It should've been Kreator, Sodom, and Destruction
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Lombardo is a beast. I originally was kind of siding with him in the rift but now I'm not so sure. A shame when that kind of ugliness and airing of dirty laundry occurs, as it has again recently with Fleetwood Mac and with the Zappa Family Trust and Dweezil.
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In the last five minutes I liked a post about my collegue visiting a mosque in Cologne, a jewish mate sharing pics of a bloody delicious looking meal, Haraki-san trying on Danners in Long Beach, and I laughed at the expense of some neo-nazi shitbirds in Germany, who're doing a yearly music festival and thus the locals bought up all the beer so the only place they can actually get some, is a local kebab's…
The Internetz is a beautiful place sometimes
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Shouts out to London Heathrow for streamlining the Immigration and Customs process.
There are now 3 separate lines:
-UK passports
-EU+ and a few other trusted countries (Including USA, Japan, and a few more)
-Other countriesWe didn't have to fill out any landing cards or customs forms, and from the time we go inn the line for immigration, it took less than 15mins, and there was at least 50 people ahead of us. A huge change since when I first got here to the UK in September 2016, and it took 4hrs.
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It is easy sometimes, with the pace of modern life, to not fully appreciate how fortunate we are for the people and things we have in life.
I often question myself when I spend £300 on a single item of clothing. In my work I meet people who use food banks everyday, who have misused substances since childhood because they were introduced by a parent, or who are fleeing abuse, torture, incrimination for their sexuality, the list goes on…
I feel so fortunate for the people and things I have in my life. So next time we slip on a £300 pair of jeans let's appreciate that we have been able to afford such extravagance, and never forget things can be lost so much quicker than they are found.
Love to you all x
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Wise words - thank you!
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Hey everybody,
I'm aware that you don't know me and I don't know most of you but somehow I have the urge to tell my story, even if it's just to some strangers. I've been looking here everyday for a year or so and I'm not active anywhere else on the internet.
I have a little daughter which is 3yo now. My wife was pregnant with a girl. The pregnancy was amazing, no complications for her or the baby, no worries, every check up said it's all good.
Last week on Monday morning, pregnancy week 40, my wife had a CTG and it was all fine. In the evening my wife told me she hadn't felt any child movements the whole day. We were a little worried but we thought it'd be all right, I mean… few hours before she had a CTG.... We read it's normal that the kids move a lot less on the last days of pregnancy. But it just felt wrong and my wife drove to the hospital alone, as I had to take care of our other daughter (it was in the middle of the night). I was waiting so long and then came the call, my wife told me our baby is dead. I got on my knees crying. I'm not sure what happened next but I managed to call my parents to come over and drove to the hospital myself. We are destroyed.
My wife gave birth to our baby girl Marlen on Tuesday 8pm. When she was born i was begging her just to start crying, but she didn't.
We only had one night with her. I read her some child books, Radio plays, we just hold her in our arms the whole night. It somehow was a beautiful night , but it was the only one we had with her. She is a really beauty.
On Wednesday 1pm we had to leave her behind in the hospital and drove home. We are more then heartbroken. Sometimes I'm feeling so empty and numb, sometimes it really really hurts.
I'll never be able to see her laughing or crying. I'll never see her growing up. I'll never hold her in my arms again. And most important she had no chance to see this beautiful world, to make her first steps, to meet her sister and family...just everything.
This happened 5 days before her calculated birth date. She had the umbilical cord around her neck and her whole body.
I guess my 3yo does not really understand what's happening and why mom and dad are so sad. But she said Marlen is in heaven now with our dog, who died few weeks ago and she wants to give a little ball to Marlens grave so that she can play with him.
Tomorrow is the funeral and I'm just scared.
I just wanted to write it down and share it with somebody. A lot easier to write then to talk about it. Maybe this is the wrong place , if so , just delete my post.
If it helps me, it helps. If not, it can't get worse.Thanks for reading ,
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Kevin I’m so sorry. It is a terrible thing you have experienced. I hope sharing it here helps you get through the evening. The only thing to do at a time like this is to get through each day at a time.
My sincere condolences and warmest thoughts to you and your family.
Reuben.
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Kevin, thank you for sharing. I don't know you but after reading about you and your families recent traumatic experience you all are in me and my wife's thoughts and we are sending you love at this difficult time.
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@chbronsonx - I am so terribly sorry to learn your tragic news, yet privileged that you felt you could share your story here. Like most people, I cannot possibly understand what you and your wife are going through, with the grief of losing your baby daughter and all the unanswerable questions that go with that shocking loss.
With sincere condolences, sending love and all positive thoughts to you and your family at this terrible time. As Neph has already said, it will be a case of taking each hour and day as it comes, and leaning on all the support you are offered to help you through.
Thinking of you all.
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My sincerest condolences to you, your wife and Family. What a heartbreaking story. My sister had three very similar experiences with losing babies very short before birth, having to give birth to them. Now she has three healthy Kids and I think we keep the memory to the other ones in a Special place, but don't go there daily to somehow be able to deal with it. I hope you'll find a way to cherish the Memory of her without letting it bring you down over time. Crossing fingers for all of you.
Flo
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@Giles @neph93 @den1mhead @Madame Buttonfly @Max Power
Hi ,
Thank you all very much for the nice words you said. We really appreciate that.
The funeral was early this morning and somehow it was kind of beautiful. All the
people that came, family and friends…My daughter drew a picture for her sister ,
gave her a ball, a toy and a stuffed animal. Tons of soapbubbles for the kids and
we let fly some balloons... I thought she wouldn't understand what's
happening but she honestly said several times today that she's really sad and
misses her sister.
She will take a special place between us forever I guess, we are parents of 2 now,
even if one is not with us.
Thanks a lot .
And @Max Power Your sister must be tough as nails. I'm not sure I'd survive if this happened
to me three times. I thought it can't get worse but for her it was a lot worse I guess. On the other
side, if she has three kids now and she's happy…guess it's worth going through hell then. Leaves
me speechless. Thanks for sharing .I wish you all a nice day / evening,
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@chbronsonx
Kevin, thanks for posting again and letting us know about how the day went. Just to echo what @Madame Buttonfly wrote earlier, it is a fine thing that you feel able to share your grief here at this terrible time. I hope it gives you something.You may or may not be a fan of Nick Cave. You may or may not know that he lost his 16 year old son in an accident a few years ago. At https://www.theredhandfiles.com he fields questions on all sorts of topics but some of them are about grief and loss, and specifically about his reaction to the death of his son and the process of grieving that event. Regardless of the topic, he always writes with warmth, love, honesty, humour and humanity. There may be some solace in his words for you too.
Take care
Reuben
