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^ sounds like heaven. Brits aren’t big on that either. Norwegians are however.
when I was in college I went back to Japan for my 'study abroad' program, even though I had lived there previously. anyway, my roommate was this kid from Hokkaido who never looked me in the eye when I spoke to him. He stood sideways and talked to me while looking at me from the corner of his eye. when my mom came to visit me she was introduced to my roommate….needless to say, she thought he was a shady sonofab*tch
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^ Interesting. Brits aren’t that obvious about it. I think we’ve mastered the art of looking beyond the face or at the mouth or nose so it’s not evasive but isn’t direct eye contact. The eye content scared the shit out of me when I moved to Norway, felt like everyone either wanted to sleep with me or punch me…
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^ Interesting. Brits aren’t that obvious about it. I think we’ve mastered the art of looking beyond the face or at the mouth or nose so it’s not evasive but isn’t direct eye contact. The eye content scared the shit out of me when I moved to Norway, felt like everyone either wanted to sleep with me or punch me…
eye contact, or the lack thereof, doesn't bother me that much. I think, too, it depends on the situation. If you're in a casual setting then it's not that big a deal, but in a business setting it can come off as disrespectful if the person you're talking to isn't engaged in the conversation and not looking at you imho. It's similar when you're talking to children. My son, who is 4.5 yo, yells at me if he doesn't have my undivided attention, so I try to make an effort to be engaged and listen to him when he speaks.
Likewise with handshakes. Here in the US, a firm handshake is customary when meeting someone for the first time. But sometimes guys will squeeze the sh*t out of your hands like it's a competition. Firm is good but limp-wristed is not
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^ Interesting. Brits aren’t that obvious about it. I think we’ve mastered the art of looking beyond the face or at the mouth or nose so it’s not evasive but isn’t direct eye contact. The eye content scared the shit out of me when I moved to Norway, felt like everyone either wanted to sleep with me or punch me…
Well said. In my line of work eye contact is a must (serving/bartending) and I am unnerved by it at times. Here in the states the amount of eye contact varies from situation to situation. But I do notice that when talking with Northern Europeans. Swedes, Norwegians etc there is an intensity in the eye contact. And I always look away… can’t hack it
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^ Interesting. Brits aren’t that obvious about it. I think we’ve mastered the art of looking beyond the face or at the mouth or nose so it’s not evasive but isn’t direct eye contact. The eye content scared the shit out of me when I moved to Norway, felt like everyone either wanted to sleep with me or punch me…
Funny you say that, in the US prison system eye contact means one of two things….we are going to fight or we are are going to f@#!
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I'm big on eye contact though. I think a lot of it is a personal thing too.
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The eye content scared the shit out of me when I moved to Norway, felt like everyone either wanted to sleep with me or punch me…
This is why I never joined the military. That and I have a habit of laughing when people are yelling at me…
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The eye content scared the shit out of me when I moved to Norway, felt like everyone either wanted to sleep with me or punch me…
This is why I never joined the military. That and I have a habit of laughing when people are yelling at me…
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I bet your wife loves that when she's mad and yelling at you.
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Luckily she’s pretty level headed - and knows my laughing is out of embarrassment for myself [emoji15]
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Eye contact is key particularly if you are counsellors [emoji102]
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…because he felt like I was challenging him.
Either that or he suddenly thought "He's got pretty eyes" and that scared him…
Could be that too, lol!
*I had another Drill Sergeant randomly wake me up at 2am just to say "Hey, Private! I was thinking….. I need to make a nickname for you, because I refuse to keep calling another man "Love"... That's gay.", lmao!
