Unpopular opinions
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Maybe, but the key is to help the child to differentiate fantasy violence from actual violence. For instance I would say that it is worse to allow a child to play Call Of Duty than it is to let them watch Friday the 13th, as Call Of Duty purposely exposes the reality element of violence.
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I would agree with COD
Sadly, alot of parents let the kid decide what is fantasy vs reality and there in lies the problem. Good parenting vs bad parenting
This is kind of a hot button issue for me being a new father and seeing how the kids of our friends act, it's ridiculous what some parents let their kids do
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Putting the decision in the hands of the child is ridiculous, and to make clear my own stance as a father, my son is 7 and he has watched Jaws but not Rambo or American Werewolf, and he is not allowed to play COD though most of his friends are and I have no doubt that he has when he has been to their houses.
When Tommy is a little older I may show him movies with more of a fantasy violence angle (Conan The Barbarian etc…), and after that will come Rambo and all the other 80's acton flicks. All the time I will watch them with him and gauge his response, as this has to be the responsibility of the parent. To my mind, letting you kid go and watch all this stuff with mates at a young age is the irresponsible way to go with it.
As a boy I watched American Werewolf in London with my dad when I was 5 years old and it terrified me, but it also taught me a valuable lesson about separating fantasy and reality violence that I think is missing from a lot of kids these days. I'm not saying that my dad did the right thing, as I was too young, but the lesson worked. My father simply did not believe in censorship at all when it came to movies.
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Well, citing Jaws raises an interesting question.
Also my first thought/reaction. Huge jump from Rambo. Jaws for the most part is a psychological movie moreso than blood/guts/gore. Get your point tho. To the core point, I watched 'A Nightmare on Elm Street' when I was around 9 or 10, it scared the fuck out of me. Not at the time, and not because I thought it was real, rather the psychological concepts. #overshare? #wrongthread?
I agree that kids should not be sheltered for the realities of the world. You can't always shelter them, better to let them live and see and be supportive.
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I would agree with COD
Sadly, alot of parents let the kid decide what is fantasy vs reality and there in lies the problem. Good parenting vs bad parenting
This is kind of a hot button issue for me being a new father and seeing how the kids of our friends act, it's ridiculous what some parents let their kids do
Welcome to the world of parenthood! When you have no kids, you don't really notice it. But once you brought a child of your own into the world, it is a totally different story. I can't fathom how many times I said it to myself, WTF your parents let you do that?
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@Omega:
I would agree with COD
Sadly, alot of parents let the kid decide what is fantasy vs reality and there in lies the problem. Good parenting vs bad parenting
This is kind of a hot button issue for me being a new father and seeing how the kids of our friends act, it's ridiculous what some parents let their kids do
Welcome to the world of parenthood! What you have no kids, you don't really notice it. But once you brought a child of your own into the world, it is a totally different story. I can't fathom how many times I said it to myself, WTF your parents let you do that?
I saw a kid literally walk into a windowed door of a store because he refused to look up from his Nintendo DS. I know I'm not supposed to but I laughed out loud and got an evil eye from the mom. I wanted to yell back at her "teach your kid how to walk with his head up; evolution bitch!"
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I won't be so kind, the devil in me will say "next time, it will be a car"
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Dude, I did that yesterday, it has nothing to do with youth and everything to do with being oblivious to your surroundings (I've been doing this since well before iPhones were invented
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I think they fell out of my pocket when I hit the car
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I refuse to be a member of any club who would have the likes of me as a member
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Plus, I'm not American so insulting my masculinity will not illicit a response, in Europe we are born without the "Marty McFly" gene….... apart from the Scottish, who I believe invented it.
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spend time with your kids talking & doing activitives (take a walk, go to the park, play ball, etc.). imho folks have a tendency to substitute material things for basic interaction with their youngsters. i'm tired of folks not knowing their kids. if you can't tell me your kids favorite color or who is their best friend, what movies & tv shows they watch then the problem isn't the kid it's the parent. the more plugged in we become it seems alot of us are missing basic interaction with people trying to get that brass ring. oh & some folks just shouldn't have kids, let's be honest. you need a license for everything but they let any asshole have a kid. oh & marriage licenses, has any one ever thought why is it the only license i can think of where you do not have to renew it. i mean driver's license, license for your dog, all kinds of crap, but marriage you are hit. one time while you are insane with love then reality hits & you can not get a re do.
going to write my congressman about renewable marriage licenses & see what comes of it . . .
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Monday Rules
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It shouldn't be, what a great post MM.
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I think showing something like Friday the 13th to a child versus Jaws is much different…
I grew up on horror films when all the other kids were watching Disney, and I'm not a violent person. If anything, it taught me the distinction between the "make believe" of media, and reality. The only thing I think it affected was my taste in programming. Even as a small child, I thought Nickelodeon, TGIF, cartoons, etc. were for babies.
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As a boy I watched American Werewolf in London with my dad when I was 5 years old and it terrified me, but it also taught me a valuable lesson about separating fantasy and reality violence that I think is missing from a lot of kids these days. I'm not saying that my dad did the right thing, as I was too young, but the lesson worked. My father simply did not believe in censorship at all when it came to movies.
I guess I should have read the entire thread before responding. Mega illustrates my point much better than I did.
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spend time with your kids talking & doing activitives (take a walk, go to the park, play ball, etc.). imho folks have a tendency to substitute material things for basic interaction with their youngsters. i'm tired of folks not knowing their kids. if you can't tell me your kids favorite color or who is their best friend, what movies & tv shows they watch then the problem isn't the kid it's the parent. the more plugged in we become it seems alot of us are missing basic interaction with people trying to get that brass ring. oh & some folks just shouldn't have kids, let's be honest. you need a license for everything but they let any asshole have a kid.
This is one of the most refreshing things I have read in a while. Good on you, Monday.
