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    • Megatron1505M
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      Do you need to quit smoking? Get fit? Curb your excessive swearing? Step in and get support from people who have either done the same, or need to. We're here for you bro.

      The name of this thread says it all, if you have an issue or a personal challenge that you need some help and support with, then this is the place for you.

      To begin with my current personal challenge, I need to stop smoking (again). I have done this twice before, once for a year and once for three years where I limited my smoking to very occasional social smoking, like maybe twice or three times per year.

      Unfortunately I have recently slipped big time, and whilst I am still not smoking full time I am having at least one cigarette most days and plenty more at weekends. The main problem I have is that because I have done this before, and I have found stopping quite easy in the past, I have always seen smoking and not smoking as "no big deal". I also know myself psychologically well enough to know that the the following things will not work.

      • E-Cigs, I won't replace a drug with a drug or a habit with a habit. Not for me.

      • Self help books - I read Alan Carrs "Easy Way To Stop Smoking" and it worked, I thought it was brilliant and made absolute perfect sense to me. So why am I smoking now?

      • Telling me it's bad for me and will damage my health, I know this but obviously on some level of my psyche I simply don't care. Plus, scaring me only raises my stress level about it and make me want to smoke more.

      Any ideas guys?

      Made in England, clothed in Japan, fed in America and drunk in Belgium !

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      • bagley920B
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        My stepdad smoked for 40 years and quit with Chantix. I know it's a drug but know quite a few it has worked for Gav

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        If I am not I, who will be? -Henry David Thoreau

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        • Megatron1505M
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          I dunno man, the side effects sound terrifying.

          Made in England, clothed in Japan, fed in America and drunk in Belgium !

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          • mclaincauseyM
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            Put a picture of the little one on each pack of cigarettes and maybe on all your lighters?

            EDIT: Awesome thread idea btw.

            Think it, be it.

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            • 4c4
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              Why do you want to stop Mega?

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              • Megatron1505M
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                Mcl - I thought about using the boy as motivation, and it isn't a bad shout to be fair.

                4C - Cost, health…...mainly cost. I don't like literally burning money.

                Made in England, clothed in Japan, fed in America and drunk in Belgium !

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                • Chiba J.C
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                  I'm an occasional smoker as well.

                  I've found that cutting certain people (i.e. those who smoke), places (i.e. places where everyone smokes) and pastimes (i.e. DRINKING) out of my life reduces the desire to smoke to about nil.

                  A daily running regime also helps. Desire to smoke is seriously weakened if you are made to feel its effects on your lungs through a little physical exertion.

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                  • Megatron1505M
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                    That is also a good shout Chiba, I was getting some good level of fitness back before this evil habit reared its head again. Now my exercise has trailed off, so perhaps picking it back up will make me "feel" the effects of smoking.

                    Made in England, clothed in Japan, fed in America and drunk in Belgium !

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                    • 4c4
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                      I suppose one thing that may help is to try to not view yourself as a smoker (but rather smoking as an action) and concentrate on viewing each and every step involved in smoking as a choice. IE getting into the car, starting the engine, driving to the store, going in, reaching for a pack, buying them, opening the pack, taking out cigarettes, putting them in the mouth, taking out lighter, opening lighter, lighting up, etc…

                      I know this sounds rather simple, but often addictions are just doing things without thinking about them as choices.

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                        Mega I have not smoked one cigarette in all my life time.
                        Mega you can Quit if you work at it. Best of luck to you. 🙂

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                        • EastWestE
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                          Hi Mega, great thread idea.

                          I was 10-15 rollies (roll your own for the non Brits) a day pre champix and could, if will power was a strength of mine I would have given up without a problem. Loved the health benefits, felt good, a pleased wife and thought due to the drug effects of champix that cigarettes were a mingin thing of the past.

                          I stopped taking it (a tad early) and had a social smoke and unfortunately the love was rekindled!! Arse! But I'm still smoking a dam site less than I was an intend on keeping that way and improving on it gradually with work on the strength of my weeel power!

                          The points I was trying to make was: Champix wasn't as scary as I had read about and if you ate as level headed as you seem, you'd be fine, I was a bit knarky for a couple of weeks buy it relaxed…...should check that with my better half really. And secondly, if you have managed to give up for the lengths of time you have already........then....you van dooo it!

                          on the other hand I'm an ex paramedic and went to a lot of 90+ year olds that were on 40 a day with no other meds.

                          Go figure. Good luck if you do though, I shall read with interest:)

                          Now, can anyone help me get over the must have nice clobber issues I seem to have developed over the past few years 🙂

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                          • Megatron1505M
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                            I think that distraction works well for me, I feel an urge to smoke whilst at work so I'm thinking that I can use my upcoming break to Barcelona as a week long distraction.

                            Thanks for all the help and tips so far guys.

                            Made in England, clothed in Japan, fed in America and drunk in Belgium !

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                            • bagley920B
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                              @Megatron1505:

                              I dunno man, the side effects sound terrifying.

                              That's every drug. Rarely happens though

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                              If I am not I, who will be? -Henry David Thoreau

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                              • bagley920B
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                                Here's one

                                How do I get laid more? 😉
                                Any advice on that?

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                                If I am not I, who will be? -Henry David Thoreau

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                                • Megatron1505M
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                                  Get your wife drunk…....

                                  .....then go out and visit dive bars  😉

                                  Made in England, clothed in Japan, fed in America and drunk in Belgium !

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                                    My name is Luiz Felipe Scolari and I think I may need a new job. I'm based in Brazil but would prefer a foreign assignment, can you help please?

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                                    • ChrisC
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                                      @bagley920:

                                      Here's one

                                      How do I get laid more? 😉
                                      Any advice on that?

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                                      Now that you have a kid, that's not gonna happen.  Adjust your expectations accordingly.

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                                      • bagley920B
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                                        @Chris:

                                        @bagley920:

                                        Here's one

                                        How do I get laid more? 😉
                                        Any advice on that?

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                                        Now that you have a kid, that's not gonna happen.  Adjust your expectations accordingly.

                                        That's what I was afraid of. All downhill from here…

                                        If I am not I, who will be? -Henry David Thoreau

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                                        • 4c4
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                                          Or have JCMx800 make you one of these…
                                          @JCMx800:

                                          😉

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                                          • bagley920B
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                                            Every married man wears one of those, you just cant see it under our clothing

                                            If I am not I, who will be? -Henry David Thoreau

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